[I’m currently studying for my last year of Dentistry. For this period, individual sessions are priced at €409. For long-term coaching, based on the amounts of weeks, we can discuss in our initial call. There is two sessions per week.] In short, my approach is:
While we can work together to understand why you are the way you are, I’m more interested in helping you learn how to live with yourself. Not everything within you needs to be corrected. Some things need to be understood, some need somewhere better to go, and some simply need to stop frightening you.
I want to help you develop a relationship with yourself that is curious enough to become playful, seductive and even flirtatious with your own thoughts and behaviours. To give some dignity to the shadowy, contradictory and less acceptable parts of yourself, because they are still uniquely yours. Rather than immediately asking how to get rid of them, we can become interested in what they are doing there. Lightheartedness can sometimes take more weight off a symptom than another attempt to defeat it.
This means becoming less anxious about what you discover in yourself. A symptom can become an invitation to look inward rather than evidence that something is wrong with you. You may discover that there are many parts of you, each seemingly playing its own game, each with its own history and each feeling completely justified in wanting what it wants. One part wants intimacy while another keeps choosing distance. One wants freedom while another desperately wants to be held. One wants to move forward while another keeps returning to something that has already ended.
The aim is not to decide which of these is the “real you.” They are all participating in you. The work is to become capable of hearing them without immediately being governed by them, to negotiate between competing desires and find more creative ways for them to be expressed, so that what once diminished your life can begin to add something to it.
Part of this involves separating what you desire from the enormous number of voices through which you have learned to interpret yourself. Family, relationships, culture, psychology and even spirituality can hand us ready-made explanations for who we are and what a good life should look like. We then become remarkably good at explaining ourselves in languages that still somehow miss us.
That feeling of being stuck can sometimes come from having too many answers rather than too few. Too many voices telling you what you should want, what your behaviour means, what kind of person you are and what you should do next. The work is not to uncover one perfectly authentic voice beneath all the others. It is to become less frightened by the uncertainty that remains when those voices quieten. Ideally, I like you to get to a point where you are absolutely seduced by the idea of who you might actually be and able to become. That finding out the truth about yourself makes you feel alive. And that you rather spend all your energy on this pursuit than anything else. The Details Areas I coach: Relationships & love Negative beliefs & self-sabotage Finding purpose & direction Understanding your anxious and neurotic thoughts Literature background: Psychoanalysis Child-development Somatic psychology Inner-child and Internal Family Systems Transpersonal psychology Sociology books on love & relationships Long-Term Coaching If you’d like a more involved coaching experience. We have the opportunity to work together on a basis that includes the requirements: - You have a healthy style for the period (exercise, limited drinking, no smoking, no drugs) - Reading 1−2 hours every day - You’re able to commit to personal practices that allow you to be alone with yourself. I’m interested in alert, creative and purpose-driven individuals who aspire to exceptional standards of self-maturation and would enjoy the feeling of going through week-on-week of progressively stacked transformative experiences for a third of a year: my ideal client is somebody who is willing to bring forward their internal complexity with a sense of courage and transparency with the intention of nothing less than full-spectrum transformation & rapid acceleration on their personal path.
If you’re interested in working together, you can contact me on Instagram or by email at [email protected]. We’ll begin with a conversation about what you’re looking for and whether this way of working together would be a good fit.